Being Fabulous!

Do you truly believe in yourself?  And your ability to do or achieve anything that you choose?  Do you think that life really is pretty fantastic?  Do you back yourself 100% in everything that you do?  Do you know that whatever happens to you, you will handle it?

Being fabulous is exactly what it says - accepting yourself for who you are, acknowledging your imperfections as part of your humanness; learning from your mistakes and forgiving yourself immediately; not taking life too seriously and treating yourself and others with respect.  It has nothing to do with arrogance or regarding yourself as being better than other people.

Tips to make Life Tops!

1. When you look in the mirror, look for the things that you like, rather than things that you don’t like.

2. Take a pride in your appearance.  Make an effort to look as good as you can at all times.

3. Believe in yourself, be your own best friend or better still, your own fan club!

4. Identify anything that you are “putting up” with in your life and rather than moaning about it - fix it!  If it can’t be fixed - e.g. the weather - then accept it and move on!

5. Smile at other people.

6. Accept that all behaviour has a good intention.  If your nearest and dearest are behaving in a less than desirable way, ask yourself what the good intention is behind this behaviour.  For example, if you child is playing up, maybe he simply wants some attention from you, so maybe cuddles are a better response than yelling!

7. Identify what your values are and make sure that the way that you live is congruent with them.  Values are a motivational force which are intrinsic to your being - they can be things such as honesty, integrity, caring about the environment, MORE

8. Identify your natural talents and use them.

9. Be aware of what skills you have and if there are any skills that would benefit you that you don’t have at present, find a way to get them.  Accept that as you start to learn these new skills you will need practice and may make mistakes, be willing to learn from the experts.

10. Accept that you always have a choice.  You choose your activities, you choose your behaviour and you choose your responses to what happens in your life. 

11. Avoid the temptation to judge other people.  They may be different to you, that does not mean one way is right and the other is wrong, it just means they are different.

12. Learn to recover quickly.  We all have things happen in our lives which are painful and difficult and of course we need to work through these.  However, many people continue to hurt themselves by continually reliving this pain.  Let go of old hurt, allow yourself to heal and put the old pain in the past where it belongs so that you can look forward to the future.

13. Plan at least one thing in your life every single day that you do for no other reason that it’s fun!  Enjoy!

14. Tell the people that you love that you love them and don’t be afraid to show it in your actions.

15. Be interested - look around you when you are out and about, notice what is going on in your local area, ask other people what is happening with them, research things that are of interest to you.  Develop your curiosity!

16. Be generous to others.  Accept their differences; welcome other opinions into your life.  Spend time listening to the people around you.

17. Make a contribution back to society.  This can be done in any way that you choose - whether you prefer to get involved in activities that will help your local community, or maybe you will support global causes or do your bit for the environment – giving something back will make you feel good.  It can be very humbling when you take a look outside of yourself and spend some time there.  And it can be great fun too!

18. Forget perfectionism, acknowledge that you are better at some things than others, recognise that sometimes things will not go according to plan and that is ok.  Accept your imperfections - they make you human!

19. Be kind to people, show some caring and consideration.  Give them the benefit of the doubt.

20. Remember, you only live once and life is too short not to make the most of every single day.

“Remember, your greatest ally or most powerful enemy is one and the same person - you” 

Fiona Harrold